Something needs to change 

Ever since I heard the news of yet another precious child being found dead, I can’t seem to get her off my mind; another innocent young soul’s life taken away too soon at the hands of another. Why is this happening so often, and why are these children not being protected from such cruelty?

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I wrote a status just the other day, venting about what I’d seen on a news report about this child’s death. When I read the report of what had happened with this child, it saddened me and made me angry, as I’m sure it made many people feel. But as I scrolled down and read some of the comments people had made, I became frustrated at the ignorance of some of the words I was reading. People coming to their own conclusions about what had happened, making disgusting comments about her parents, and all this was before anyone had any idea who was responsible.

Of course, now it has been found that the stepfather was responsible for her death, however, it doesn’t change the fact that these people were being so careless with their words. The first people that I thought of when reading these comments were this little angel’s family. Nowadays nearly everyone has Facebook, including children. I couldn’t help but think of those poor family members (aunties, grandparents, her sisters etc)  who likely saw everything that was posted. I wish people would consider the feelings of those that love these lost children before commenting so irresponsibly. This is not the first time it has happened either- every single time a child has lost their life, people are very quick to jump on social media and accuse people or put their two cents in, long before any details have been confirmed.

The other thing I’ve noticed is that so many people are very much for the death penalty in these instances. While I appreciate that society is angry about these children losing their lives, I wholeheartedly disagree with these people who say “bring back the death penalty”, and simply because I feel that being put to death would be the easy way out. These people need to be held accountable for their actions and be forced to spend the rest of their lives in prison, living with what they’ve done. This is just my opinion, however. Obviously, locking them away wouldn’t make the pain any more bearable, and it won’t bring back the child the families have lost, but neither would the death penalty.

Far too often nowadays, we are seeing innocent children being abused and worse still, murdered, and it seems to be happening more and more lately. It’s heartbreaking and leaves most of us confused as to how someone could possibly harm a child. Particularly for those of us who are parents ourselves, it really does hit a nerve and personally, makes me sick to the stomach. Any crime against a child is just incomprehensible and gut wrenching, to say the least.

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I can’t help but wonder however whether this is a sign to awaken humanity to what the real underlying problem may be. In my opinion, not enough is being done about these children that are in environments that are potentially life threatening; not to mention the emotional, physical and mental damage that so many children are at risk of. While I appreciate that child protection do investigate most reports (I have experience dealing with them, both professionally through my work in early childhood education, and personally), unfortunately regulations and funding limit what can be done in these situations.

The government needs to step it up and provide more support for those working in the field to allow them to do their jobs properly, which is what they’re there for: protecting children from harm. The other side of this is from the families’ perspective. Where is the support and intervention if necessary; not only for the children, but for the parents/extended family? Why do these situations continue to go unnoticed until something tragic happens?

Reports to child protection need to be taken seriously and action taken if a child is at risk of harm- whether it be physical, emotional, sexual or neglect. If people in their living environment have a history of domestic violence or drug use, the family should be monitored closely, and in particular, are current drug users, something more needs to be done.

In addition to this, there needs to be way more direct support for these families; in rehabilitation, in parenting and respite, and in how to deal with challenges such as drug use, violence, and mental health issues. It’s not good enough to just have ‘support services available’ for these families. In most instances, they aren’t going to go out of their way to reach out and get help, because of their state of mind and mental health. Where children are involved, intervention is required, and other family members need assistance too, in order to properly monitor and support them. If our children are going to be kept safe and these senseless deaths of children stopped, this is my ‘two cents’ on what needs to happen.

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Why me?

This is such a commonly heard question, isn’t it? “Why me?” I bet you’ve heard it from many people, and have likely even asked it yourself more than once. You can just picture it: palms held up towards the sky, or someone’s head buried in their hands, and you can just feel the frustration, the anger, the disappointment or grief as you or someone else asks that question…

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Of course, it’s not a great feeling to go through these events that have you asking that question, and more often than not, when you feel like asking it, you’ve probably experienced something quite serious, like a relationship breakdown or getting sick. It might also be due to losing someone close to you or having gone through some kind of trauma.

Then again, a lot of people still ask the question time after time when little frustrating things occur such as losing your purse, or locking yourself out of the house. It’s a common reaction to life’s challenges and most of us have done it. Why, though? And who are you asking?

I dare say that most people would be directing it to the universe, or God, or whatever higher source you like to refer to. In a way, your question is directed in the right place, because that’s where you originated, but really, the person you would be better asking that question of is yourself. After all, you are the one who planned your life, before you were even born.

You are probably now asking yourself, “but why would I plan to have this stuff happen to me?” Well, to put it simply, these experiences are how you learn and evolve on a soul level. What use would it be coming into this life (or any other life) and only experiencing joy, excitement, and pleasure? It may sound nice, but what would you learn? Not that much.

Even on a conscious level, we all need to experience moments that cause us pain, heartache, sadness, frustration and so on, in order to grow and learn. How else would we be able to share wisdom with others, or empathise with another person about an experience, if we hadn’t been there ourselves? If all we did was experience the happy times, we wouldn’t really be living, would we?

So, what about those of you who may have experienced more than your ‘fair share’ of challenges in this life? You may have been born with a disability, lost a child, or been the victim of abuse, for example. You may wonder why on earth you would plan such things for yourself. As hard as it may seem to believe, you did plan these things, and for a very good reason.

Before we decide to incarnate into another life, we plan everything out. Everything including where we will live, who our parents will be, our siblings, friends, the relationships we will have, and even any illnesses or traumas we will experience. Every challenge that we come across in our lives was carefully planned out, in a way that will help us to accomplish the learning that we set out to achieve; and the very reason we decided to incarnate back on earth.

An example of this may be that you planned to be born blind. The learning will vary from person to person, but it may be that you chose this as one of your challenges in order to really understand what it’s like to experience life with your other senses, or to provide inspiration to others on a similar path. The examples are endless, but you can guarantee that no matter the experiences you have chosen for this life, they are all significant, and all serve a purpose in your soul’s evolution. The more challenging it is, the more important the lesson.

Not only do you plan your own life out, but you also do this in consultation with others that have incarnated with you. So for example, if you decided to be born to an alcoholic mother, you both would have agreed to this together; each of you gaining wisdom and growth from the experience on a soul level, and working together to help one another evolve. Knowing this may help you to appreciate why certain people have a place in your life and what role they play. It might also allow you to understand those people in your life much better; knowing that they too have their own plan to carry out.

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So, next time you find yourself asking, “why me?” a more appropriate question to ask might be “what am I supposed to be learning from this?”, or “how can I use this experience to help me grow?”. Once you’re able to embrace this concept, rather than try to push against it or feel as though the universe ‘has it out for you’, you’ll be in a much better position to live your life fully and with true purpose.

This is me

I thought I’d start my first blog post by telling you a bit about me. To be honest, to describe myself would take a whole novel (which I will write one day), and there are so many different aspects to who I am, that it wouldn’t be possible to sum it all up in one blog entry.

I have quite a few different passions (some might say too many, and to that I say “pfft”) and have finally found what truly makes me happy, after many years of feeling as though something was missing.

Let’s start with my family. I’ve been married for three years; and been with my hubby for six years. There is a massive story about out journey together- both before we got together and our triumphs and challenges throughout. This, I’ll save for another post, but let me just say that we were clearly meant to be in each other’s lives for many significant reasons, and while it took me a long time to understand it, our challenges are a lot of the reason why we are so strong; both as a couple, and as individuals.

My eldest son Brendon was born in 2003, and is a very sensitive, kindhearted soul. He has started high school this year and is going through puberty, so you can just imagine how much fun that has been! He has had his own battles to face, including adjusting to his Dad living on the other side of the country, understanding what it’s like to be in a blended family, and being a victim of bullying, but I believe this is going to hold him in good stead to be able to help many people when he is older. I am often in awe of his resilience, and his ability to maintain such a kind and loving nature.

In 2013, my little heart warrior was born. Nate was five weeks premature (just like his older brother), and just ten days after coming into the world, had open heart surgery. This was hands down the most frightening experience of my life; that gut wrenching feeling of not knowing whether my son would survive. Nate has changed my life in many ways (again, long story) and I am so proud to be his Mumma.

My daughter Grace decided entered the world in May this year, and I truly believe that she is the same soul that I miscarried in 2012; deciding that it was finally the right time for her to be part of our little family. Grace is a spitting image of me, and our bond is one that I can’t quite describe in words.

So, as you can probably imagine, I have my hands full with a teenager, a toddler, and a little bubba, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Yes, they test my patience at times, like all kids do, but that’s just part of being a Mum, and I am blessed to have such an important job.

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Now that I’ve introduced my little family, I guess I should tell you a little about me. After all, if you decide to follow my posts, you’ll likely want to know what types of things I might be writing about. I’ll try and keep this as brief as I can, in order to give you a kind of ‘snapshot’ of me, and so that I don’t end up writing a whole novel here!

I’m 36 years young and as I’ve said, my life has been interesting so far to say the least. My Mum gave birth to me when she was just eighteen years old and we lived with my grandparents for the first few years of my life, which explains why I’ve had such an amazing relationship with them. I live five minutes away from my Nan now and I feel my Pa around me and my children all the time (he passed in 2011). My Mum and I have had an interesting relationship over the years, and it was actually in the moments that my dear Pa was in hospital just before his passing that Mum and I rekindled our relationship. Our bond has grown ever so strong since then, and I am so pleased that we are once again as close as we used to be.

I struggled emotionally for many years with my estranged relationship with my father. It wasn’t until recently that I finally made the decision to cut ties with him, after too many years of disappointment. I met my father for the first time when I was thirteen years old, and tried tirelessly to form some kind of relationship with him, but ultimately decided that it was better for my emotional and mental wellbeing to let that hope go.

Among many other things, something I feel very strongly about is raising awareness for mental health. I’ve had my eyes opened to quite a few varying mental health issues; both personally through suffering anxiety and depression for many years, as well as having post natal depression after the birth of my eldest son.

I’ve also watched loved ones work through other mentally and emotionally debilitating illnesses including psychosis and post traumatic stress disorder. Sadly, I have also lost a loved one to suicide. While I have a few females in my life who have suffered from depression just like me, the majority  of major mental health challenges I’ve seen have been in significant males in my life. Needless to say, this is why I’m so passionate about this cause, and in particular, encouraging our male society to feel more comfortable in expressing their feelings.

My work- well, that’s a long story-both with how I got to where I am now, and the fact that I really can’t sum it up in just one title. I believe that the work I’m doing now is what I was born to do, and every role I’ve ever had in the past has helped me reach this point, therefore I have not a single regret about the varying experiences my working life has provided me over the years.

For several years I studied and worked in early childhood education, and absolutely loved my position as director of a small long daycare centre. The beautiful relationships that I formed over the years- with staff, families and children made my work just that much more rewarding. While I am still very passionate about early childhood education, my position meant that I had to spend way too much time at work, and after the birth of Nate, I decided to resign from my position and become a ‘stay at home Mum’. Even now, almost two years later, while I miss working with children, I know that it was the best decision I could have made.

It was shortly after I miscarried in 2012 that I began to write, and that very first piece I wrote about my life so far had me bleeding the words onto the pages. I felt liberated and free after letting my story out. After that, I felt compelled to keep writing and put together some articles as well as some books that have now been published. Through my writing I began to understand that there was a much bigger force in play with life itself than I had ever realised. This is where my spiritual journey began.

From then on, I researched, I studied, and I read; about the universe, past lives, the Other Side, spirit guides, tarot, Angels, life. The list goes on, and for anyone else who has experienced an ‘awakening’, you will know exactly what I mean when I say that the information just couldn’t be processed quickly enough. I couldn’t get enough, and I just wanted to keep learning more. I wanted to know so much more about why I was here, what my purpose was, and what life meant. And so I did.

I was taking to my sister in law one day and it just so happened that she had been experiencing similar things. Everything we had each experienced in life so far, and all the spiritual ‘knowledge’ that we wanted to gain was so in sync that it was eerie, and so we decided to start up our own Facebook community so that we could share our learning journey with others. This is where Soul Sistas Healing & Guidance began. Soul Sistas Healing Logo 2014

As we began to explore ‘all things spiritual’ we wondered if we had this ‘gift’ that everyone talked so much about. As we were both studying the Tarot during that time, we were already practicing reading and giving guidance to others, and so we thought we would have a go at trying to connect with Spirit. We were gobsmacked to say the least, when we found that not only could we connect with people’s loved ones on the Other Side, but that we were able to do many other things as well. We soon learned they our gifts had been there all along, and it was just a matter of remembering we had them.

Our little Facebook community has just grown and flourished from there, and we are now a successful business, that provides healing and guidance to many around the world. With our common love for writing, we also established our own publishing company White Light Publishing House.

Needless to say, we are both very busy ladies, what with raising young children as well as co-running two businesses, but the more we help others, the more we want to keep going and reach more people, and our plans for the future are very exciting indeed. It is just so magnificently rewarding, and the feeling we get from helping others on their own life journey is indescribable.

So, as you can tell, my ‘title’ as such when it comes to my work is very broad, and is most definitely not limited to just one area. I guess if I had to describe myself (other than being a Mum of course) in less than ten words, I would use the following: Psychic Medium, Healer, Writer, Publisher, Teacher and Lightworker. Yes, that sums it up quite nicely I think.

As you can probably gather, I’ve gained quite a bit of life experience in my 36 years, and I have oh so many things to write about here. My goal is to share my experiences  with others in the hope that it might help just one person (if not more) from people being able to genuinely relate to what I’m saying. I’m a strong believer that when you’re going through a trying time, or just confused about something in life, that simply knowing you’re not alone and that someone else has ‘been there’ is a huge support and relief. If I can do this for just one person, it would make me very happy indeed.

I hope that you can share this journey with me.
My ‘Soul Sista’ Jess also has her own blog, if you’re interested in following her: https://asistasperspective.wordpress.com/

You can check out Soul Sistas Healing & Guidance here:

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or White Light Publishing House here:

www.whitelightpublishingau.com

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